I Don’t Have All of The Answers

Who’s your favorite musical artist? Mine? Y’all, I love me some Erykah Badu. She may not be my favorite artist, per se, but I loove her vibe and her music is sure to put me in the right frame of mind.

One of my all-time favorite songs by Ms. Badu is “On & On”. Like, have you ever listened to the lyrics? I mean truly listened and analyzed and internalized the lyrics of that song? It wasn’t until I was in college that I truly appreciated the work of art that is “On & On”. In that song, Erykah sings a line that has literally transformed my life. At approximately the 1:45 mark she laid on us some of the most profound lyrics to ever grace eardrums, “A man that knows something knows that he knows nothing at all.” 🤯🤯🤯 Like whaat?! STFU!

Erykah Badu

As teenagers, and maybe even as young adults, we often think that we know everything! No, we KNOW that we know everything, and be strong and wrong! Hey, that confidence is great and imagine where we’d all be if we kept that same energy. But if your mommma was anything like my mommma, you often heard one of two things while growing up, “You think you know everything, but you don’t! You don’t know everything!” or “You don’t have to experience everything for yourself. Learn from other people’s mistakes and save yourself some heartache.” Disclaimer, I never thought that I knew everything. I was, however, wise and mature beyond my years, so that gave me a sense of confidence that most of my peers did not possess. 

So what does this long intro have to do with not having all of the answers? Lemme tell you and maybe this post is more for my own healing, (and you, too, if you deal with needing validation) but as I grow on this journey I often wonder why people should read my blog, watch my videos, and listen to my podcast. What gives me the authority to take up several moments of your precious time, several times a week? Why should you listen to me and value what I have to say? The answer, simply, is because I do not have all of the answers.

So often we turn to the internet (Google, YouTube, Facebook, et cetera) looking for solutions to our problems. I am guilty of this as well. But at the same time, I often wonder how So and So’s advice is applicable to my life. Sure, they have experienced something or met a milestone before me so they can offer insight. But it’s those on the internet who speak confidently, yet openly admit that they are learning as they live, that capture my interest.


I have lived through ups and downs, seen the ins and outs, therefore I have perspective and valuable insight. Although I am opinionated, my thoughts and words are no more or less important than the next person’s. So if you are a Jae Mommma supporter, I thank you.  Your support gives me the confidence to type and share these words with you. Even when I ramble on, kind of like I did in this post, you still rock with me and for that I thank you, from the bottom of my heart.


Until next week,

Jae Mommma